Have I grown or have I GROWN???

Over the last few months, I have been engaging in thorough introspection. I examine the various aspects of my life and determine what I need to improve, what can remain as is for now, and what I need to improve significantly.

One thing I noticed was my lack of boundaries. How I was able to identify that was through a coaching session when she said,

You are advanced in your journey; all of the problems you stated have one central route. The only thing you need to work on is your tendency to be overly people-pleasing. That means you need to start setting and maintaining boundaries.

This conversation wasn’t a shock to me because, at the time, I was a chronic people pleaser. 

• I would go out of my way to check for persons, even when my cup was empty.
• I would say yes to so many things, and I would experience major burnout or extreme discomfort.
• I would allow people to say hurtful things to me and say absolutely NOTHING, even though I felt so sad on the inside.

There are many more, but I will focus on these three for now.

I was aware of the term’ people-pleasing,’ but I now needed to understand the concept of boundaries to improve fully. So far, I am a work in progress, and I am loving the progress. Stay tuned for more updates on my boundary journey.

Are you a people-pleaser and/or do you lack boundaries? Let me know.