I came across a video of an interview where a person was asked to share their favourite quote. She said, 

“what you’re not changing, you’re choosing.”

As simple as it sounded, it was highly impactful. 

I instantly thought about all the times I chose to complain about my current situation because I felt powerless, or how I decided to stay in situations because I thought that this reality was my only option.

However, I was brainwashed by the illusion of a lack of power. I saw repeatedly how people gave up their power because life felt challenging. I saw how people in my immediate environment were constantly complaining about their situations. This trait eventually became a learned behaviour of mine, and eventually my identity since childhood.

Within the past eight years, I became more mindful of what I consumed, and I gradually changed my environment and mindset. From this shift, I learned that I am ALWAYS in control of my life and responsible for the decisions that affect me. As much as your life is entangled with other persons, the decision you make directly or indirectly affects others. Suppose I don’t like a particular situation or opportunity; I have the power to change the outcome by removing myself or by creating and maintaining boundaries to stay true to my values. 

Learning this lesson now, I can strive to transform my present into a reality that nurtures my best self, which will, in turn, ripple into my future. Being aware of this knowledge makes me powerful because I know that everything that I could dream of is within my reach. “I can’t” no longer exists in my vocabulary. It is not always possible for me now, but I will find a way to make it work. With the ease of access to information, it is incredibly likely to get what you desire with consistency. 

Let’s release the limiting mindsets that no longer serve us and opt for a mental shift to become our best selves.